"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God" Romans 12:2
*This one will be a little bit more churchy due to the questions I was asked. If you're not quite "there" spiritually, don't worry. You can follow along and still understand. I don't get all deep and philosophical on you! :")
Last night, I took the time to write a blog about celibacy. I prayed about it which is why I wrote it. I got feedback from some people on Twitter and I am grateful for it because that means that the writing was not in vain. I pray that God touches someone through what is said on this page. Well, multiple people questioned about one particular topic that I was led to speak on. That topic is masturbation. While this blog page is not dedicated to sex (or the lack thereof), this blog IS dedicated to being real, honest and uncanny about life's issues affecting us as a people so that we can successfully walk the Christian walk. For so long in the church, there have been issues that need to be discussed and taught about yet they remain swept under a rug due to seeming taboo. The main thing that seems to be taboo in the church is sex.
Believe it or not, there are people in the church who are having sex or struggling to not commit the act and YES, they are saved! There are unmarried Christians who are sexually active. Should they be? NO! Should you be overeating? NO! Should you be on the phone gossiping when the bible specifically tells us to live a quiet life and mind our own business (1 Thess. 4:11)? NO! We cannot judge one another. That's God's job and He does all things well. It is our job to tell the truth in love including on the subject of sex. For those who are having sex and are YET saved, as their love for God begins to increase and their self-discipline increases, they will let go of the sin. Until they can successfully live a life free of fornication, they still need help in the "right now" of dealing with those sexual desires as they mature to the place of being able to control their flesh. Before you look down on those who are sexually active, remember "And such were some of you!" (1 Corinthians 6:11).
I personally realize that we do not know what we are not taught and many spiritual leaders are not teaching on how to be "Successfully Saved and Single" as many of our leaders do not know what it is like to be an adult who has to go years without being sexually active or without a romantic companion at all (dating). We are to help one another, so somebody needs to drop their fear of public scrutiny and speak the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help them God (and I ain't NEVA scurred [scared]! I'm SO St. Louis Lol!)
Well, the question posed was "Are unmarried Christians allowed to masturbate to help them get through their "singleness" without fornicating and of course can I back up the answer with the word of God". Ok...well here goes!
What does the bible say about masturbation?
Nothing. Next question please? (lol!)
Since the bible does not address it, can an unmarried Christian masturbate and it not be a sin?
This is a touchy subject. Well...the bible does not say anything about pornography nor smoking cigarettes either. Let's not focus on what the bible does not say and focus on applying what it does say to this subject. Here are some scriptures to look at:
"Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart" 2 Timothy 2:22
"Dearly beloved, I beseech [you] as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;" 1Peter 2:11
"[This] I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh." Galatians 5:16
So the question is:
What is lust? According to Strong's Concordance (Greek, 1939 entry), lust is a longing especially for what's forbidden; Are you LONGING for something that you can't have (sex, food, money, a spouse, etc.)? Congratulations. You are lusting for it. #FACT.
Masturbation is used (by yourself) to achieve sexual satisfaction at that moment. That moment is brought upon by lust (longing for sexual activity that you cannot have). In that moment, you are lusting for sex. Now, those who are unmarried should not be having ANY sexual contact. Therefore, I conclude that to commit a sexual act (masturbating) in order to receive sexual gratification brought upon by lustful feelings is indeed a sin. In 5 words or less, "Masturbation is a sin."
If you do not agree, I would suggest that you contact a spiritual leader in whom you can trust about this subject and ask for a second opinion. I'm licensed...but I'm not your spiritual mother. You are not under my spiritual leadership so if you have a question, you should always feel free to ask someone else (my feelings won't be hurt! Lol! I actually will be happy because those who are spiritually mature do not just take the word (opinion) of someone else...they research the Word for themselves!)
I practice what I preach so I will put it out there for clarification...NO, I don't do "it"! Thank you very much! LOL! Remember in the previous blog, I said that I threw stuff out of frustration in a "moment" a while ago. Yep, that's why I threw it! Could that (me throwing out of anger) be a sin in that moment? Yes, because I had sinful desires in my heart and I was angry that I could not fulfil the lust of the flesh but all I can do is be honest. In that moment, I was desiring for something that I could not have and instead of getting the thought out of my head and moving on (2 Cor 10:5, Phil 2:5), I chose to get angry and start throwing stuff! LOL!!! I repented, saints. I know better now. :")
Anyway, that was my two cents on the topic and again, if you disagree with what I have concluded based upon scriptures, ask a spiritual leader in whom you can trust that will not be too shy to answer.
Love you guys! Agape!
"I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, [which is] your reasonable service." Romans 12:1
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